How much is Shah responsible for all this killed people?

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Originally uploaded by roya parsay.

Here is behesht zahra the cemetry for Tehran people. Most are the war's casualties. WHo should be blamed for it? a shah who left Iran cause he was sick and could not take it anymore? a king's son who for years kept quiet and did not move seriously?
I have to see yet my grand ma's grave, and then my mother's grave(in this same cemetry) and also my uncle's grave...does anybody out there understands the fact that too many Iranians have not seen therir relatives and their graves for 26 years?? to whom shoukd we say about this tragedy?? shakespear??